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How to make your daughter cry in your arms

A new study of parents shows that even when their kids cry, parents often don’t get it. 

But there are a few tips that you can use to ease the pain, researchers say. 

One is to make sure your daughter’s tears don’t go away after you hug her, which is also called “emotional support.” 

It can help to put your arm around her or put your arms around your chest and let her cry. 

It’s important that she isn’t in a panic, said lead author Jessica E. Hahn, a doctoral candidate in psychology at the University of Pennsylvania. 

“The way we have to be with our kids is by making them feel safe and secure and protected,” she said. 

Another tip: Don’t give in to your daughter if she’s in a stressful situation. 

This is especially true for kids whose first or second grade teacher or caregiver is a parent. 

That’s because if the caregiver was a parent, that parent may have a tendency to react negatively to her or his child, the researchers wrote in the study. 

If your child cries, ask them to tell you what happened. 

Ask them to repeat the message. 

The study was published online in the Journal of Research in Personality. 

More tips: If you have a toddler or young child, it’s important to use a safety net. 

When you’re home, make sure the child has a crib or bed and that the child is at least 5 feet away from a child or family member, so that they can cry.

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If your kid cries at the dinner table, it may be best to let her stay at home and listen to the story instead of taking her outside to be hugged, Hahn said.

You can also try to find out what happened to her when she cried and get her to come back to you. 

In the meantime, she said, you should do your best to make her feel safe. 

And if you feel you’re struggling, talk to your child about it.

She may be able to relate to you, she can help you figure out what to do to make it better, and she may also be able make the situation better for you.